Great News for Best Friends at the Bar!

The Best Friends at the Bar Blog has been selected by Feedspot and its panelists as one of the Top 20 Women In Law Blogs on the web.

The Best Friends at the Bar Blog has been ranked #5 among 20 of the best blogs for women lawyers on the web!  Yes, #5.

I am really excited about this and hope that you will help me spread the word and increase the website  followers.  Read more about it below and see for yourself how the Best Friends at the Bar Blog has been recognized again as benefiting young women lawyers and helping them meet the challenges of a law career and reach success in the profession.

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Women Lawyers and Building Business Differently

At this time of the year when we celebrate Mother’s Day, women lawyers and the challenges they face are particularly on my mind.  As you may be aware, I started the Best Friends at the Bar project fifteen years ago to address those challenges and help young women lawyers advance in the profession.  Although the project has grown to address all young lawyers, regardless of gender, women lawyers and their challenges remain a great emphasis for me.

One of those challenges is still and always has been developing business.  This article from Bloomberg Law sheds some important light on that subject by suggesting that women lawyers must build business differently. Rather than trying to take on the subject all at one time, the suggestion is akin to running a marathon, one mile at a time and adopting a long-game strategy.  Although the long game may be the ultimate objective, the short game of making business development front and center each day is recommended, with the focus on creating collaborative client teams that include trust among partners.

This may be challenging because the path to law firm partnership and law firm leadership is often dependent on business development.  For women lawyers, especially mother lawyers, there are a lot of other daily responsibilities in competition with business development.  And only so many hours in every day.

The author, a business growth strategist, recommends building a book of business by focusing on strong networks (rather than large networks) and adopting a new “networking paradigm” dependent on a strong network of colleagues, clients and referral partners who are familiar with your experience and the unique way you serve clients.

Also key is emphasis on common interests you may have with prospective clients and supporting the growth of colleague practices.  Daily interactions and meaningful conversations are the building blocks of those kinds of collaborations.  As always, paying attention to what is going on in the worlds of others forms the basis of building trusted relationships.

Although business development may seem like a daunting task, the good news is that women are particularly good at this kind of relationship building.  Most women lawyers start on first base in the process — one step closer to bringing it home!

Check out the article for more specifics.





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Happy Mother’s Day, Mother/Lawyers!

Mother’s Day is right around the corner.  It is the day set aside to celebrate the importance of motherhood, and it is an important day for all families.  For mother/lawyers, it also underscores the challenges of being the mother of young children and ALSO a lawyer.

Work-life balance for mother/lawyers is critical.  That does not make it easy, and it also is not conducive to cookie cutter solutions.  It is a very personal thing and, in part, depends on the type of law those mother/lawyers practice and the degree of child care help available to them.  It means deciding what works best for the woman and her family and for the woman and her career.  It means protecting objectives on both the personal and the professional sides.

I made these arguments in an ABA Journal article several years ago, and the y0ung women lawyers on Twitter were offended to hear my advice about paying attention to both personal and professional lives.  They said that I had no right telling them what to do because they already were doing it and they were very successful.  That made me wonder why they were offended because clearly what I was suggesting was working for them.  But it was the mere fact of being told what to do that offended them.

Those young women lawyers also wrote in their tweets that I must not have children if I was emphasizing being a reliable team player at the office.  They even opined that I had sold out to male management and that I was telling women lawyers not to have children.  Because I do not engage with cancel culture, I did not engage in a dialogue with unidentified Tweeters.  If I had responded, my response would have looked something like what is included in this current Forbes article.

Considerations like setting boundaries, prioritizing tasks, delegating responsibilities, and seeking flexibility  are addressed well in the article.  Pay attention to them.  They are critical to your success and how you look back on your performance as a lawyer and as a mother of small children.

I know a little about this.  I, indeed, do have children.  Two of them, both of them successful lawyers.  And I am very happy with the images in my rear view mirror.

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Young Lawyers Need to Understand the Limitations of AI

I am a member of the District of Columbia Bar, and I, therefore, receive a copy of Washington Lawyer magazine six times a year.  I enjoy the stories, and, on occasion, I have an article published there.

The May/June 2024 magazine includes an article titled “The Client Needs You, Not AI” that I wish all of you could read.  There are many applications of AI in the practice of law, some good and some not so good.  For young lawyers, this can be very confusing — and very dangerous.

Not all of you will have access to this article.  For those of you who do, I hope you will read it.  For the rest of you, I have quoted below from the article to highlight some of the things to be wary of when relying on AI.

From the article by Josephine, M. Bahn, associate at Cozen O’Connor, immediate past chair of the ABA Young Lawyers Division:

AI can be a tool for young and new lawyers to strengthen their repertoire, but it should be used with caution.  We’ve heard the horror stories of lawyers using ChatGPT and nonexistent case law, or of attorneys utilizing AI to produce discovery requests without checking local rules requirements.  It behooves young lawyers to familiarize themselves with the technology they want to use — how it works, what others in the field might use it for, and, most importantly, what its potential pitfalls might be.

Adoption of new technology should not replace the human elements of law practice.  Knowing an individual client’s goals and preferences is not something you can readily feed into an AI platform if, for example, the client hates passive voice or will strike any in-line citations. Without knowing the “people” part of the profession, new technology tools may actually hinder young lawyers’ growth.  Remember that you are the reason the client hired you in the first place, not your ability to use AI.  

Lawyering is a technical profession where words matter and delivery may [matter more than] all else.  Our clients can see through discovery requests formulated using AI that fails to consider prior pleadings, specific facts, and the nuances of the case.  Young lawyers must remember that they are the human element needed to bring a case toward a desirable outcome for the client. …. If you remain the clients’ trusted advisor, then you remain indispensable to them. (emphasis added)

It is not often that I quote so extensively from an article.  In this case, it is important to me that you get this information straight from another associate lawyer, who is confronted with these issues in the same way you are.

It is very good advice.  Heed the warnings.


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The Importance of Active Listening for Young Lawyers

Good communication skills are very important to lawyers.  We typically think of those skills in terms of good writing skills, good speaking skills, and good advocacy skills.  Although those skills are very important and you should strive to perfect them, another very important communication skill is often overlooked.  That is the skill of active listening.

Effective communication is about more than expressing thoughts and opinions.  It often determines how we receive information and interpret the messages of others, and it is necessary to a deeper understanding of another’s thoughts and demonstrating empathy and building connections.

Active listening is critical in many legal practice settings, from interviewing witnesses to negotiating billion dollar deals.  It requires attention to what others are saying — really focused attention — in order to gain information and to develop relationships with the speaker that can benefit you in myriad ways.  When you give your full attention to a speaker, you send a message that what is being said is important and worthy of  your time.

In a recent article, “Unlock the Power of Active Listening,” the writer, Tomer Rozenberg, suggests that active listening also includes involvement with a speaker without judgment and which goes beyond simply hearing words. Active listening also can improve problem solving, by ensuring that you fully comprehend what you are hearing, and can lead to more effective solutions.  And it can cut down on misunderstandings that often are very time consuming.

Recall how annoying it is to be in a conversation with X, who is not listening and is concentrated on other things and other people.  X is scanning the room over your shoulder, clearly not engaged with you, and likely anticipating a next conversation before completing the conversation with you.  Chances are that you form harsh opinions about X, the kind of opinions that you would not want others to form about you.

To avoid that result and develop active listening skills, start your conversations by maintaining eye contact, avoiding interruptions, and responding by paraphrasing what has been said.  An occasional nod or favorable facial expression also can go a long way toward achieving active listening.  My guess is that you are an active listener in conversations with your supervisor or manager because you think your job depends on it.  And you may be right about that.  Most managers and supervisors do not relish repeating themselves because someone is not listening.

Practice active listening in your personal life and move on to conversations in your professional life.  Active listening has no downsides and can be very important for career success and satisfaction.  And don’t you want to use all of the skills available to you to achieve those objectives?





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Balancing Lawyering and Caregiving

Being a woman lawyer still presents challenges — even in 2024.  And being a lawyer/mother ups the ante on those challenges.  But, consider how much harder it must be for lawyer/mothers of special needs children.

I recently read an article that addressed those challenges in a way that especially resonated with me.  The title is “Balancing Lawyering and Caregiving in the Sandwich Generation — A Woman’s Perspective.”   As  the  second article in a series, it focused on tips for lawyering and parenting a special needs child.

Even if you do not have to struggle with issues related to caretaking for a special needs child, I encourage you to read the article because of the good, solid practical advice about trying to balance your personal life with your professional life.

In this article, you will not read complaints and testimonials from young women lawyers, who believe that the challenges for lawyer/mothers is the responsibility of employers to solve.   You will not read about lawyer/mothers, who believe that they are entitled to work only between 9 and 5 with no further responsibilities after 5 at night and until 9 the next morning.  You will not read complaints that make you wonder whether those women lawyers understand that the practice of law is a personal services business with the emphasis on client service — because that is the way the profession of law works.

To be clear, I understand the challenges that women lawyers face, but I am confident that women lawyers, including lawyer/mothers, can overcome their challenges without relying completely on others to come to their rescue.  To do that, women lawyers need to be realistic about their responsibilities and know how to take the long view.  They need to access help when they need it to fashion good solutions.  They especially need to remember and respect that they are women — and women have always leaned into the issues and relied on their remarkable flexibility and talent for problem solving.

Don’t get me wrong.  This kind of advocacy from women lawyers does not relieve employers from the responsibility of working with women lawyers toward more flexible schedules and other solutions to make caretaking and lawyering more compatible.  Meeting those challenges will require communication and cooperation and a recognition that both the women lawyers and the law firms have reasonable concerns.

This article includes the kind of advice that helps young lawyers persevere and take tremendous pride in their accomplishments.  It is the same kind of advice that you will find in my books for women lawyers and is at the core of my many speeches to law schools, law firms and law organizations, and it represents the essence of the Best Friends at the Bar program.

Here’s an excerpt from the article:

By embracing flexibility, building a solid support network, prioritizing self-care, advocating for us and our children, delegating tasks, seeking professional guidance, and staying committed to our goals, we can thrive both in and outside our careers. Finally, also remember that our dedication and strength also make us role models for other women navigating similar challenges, which can prove both rewarding and encouraging as we continue to navigate our own paths.

Now, that makes a lot of sense.


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Where Do Women Stand in the Practice of Law Today?

As you may be aware, this blog started out in 2009 for women lawyers.  My first three books were for women only, so that made sense.  I am happy to say that the status of women in the legal profession has improved significantly since that time, and I like to think that projects like Best Friends at the Bar and others have helped make that difference.

So, just exactly how are women lawyers faring in the profession today?  Forbes has published an article with some interesting statistics, which I think will interest all of you — even my male readers, who may be married to women lawyers or have women lawyers as members of their teams.  Here are some excerpts, which I found particularly interesting.

Between 2013 and 2023, the Percentage of Female Lawyers Increased From 34% to 39%

Women have been making great strides within the legal field. The percentage of male lawyers declined from 66% to 61% over the past decade as the percentage of female lawyers increased from 34% to 39%.

With women increasingly outpacing men in educational achievement—more females than males earned college degrees according to recent Census data—this comes as no surprise.

27.76% of Law Firm Partners Were Women in 2023 Compared to 20.22% in 2013

Achieving partnership in a law firm is the ultimate goal of many legal professionals, and it is one of the highest levels of professional attainment for those within the legal industry. Women are increasingly reaching this level of professional success.

More than a quarter,27.76%, of all law firm partners were women in 2023. This is a significant increase compared to 2013, when women accounted for just 20.22% of law firm partners across the United States.¹

One-third of Active Court of Appeals, District Court, Magistrate and Bankruptcy judges are women

Women are also playing an increasing role in interpreting the law rather than just practicing the law. Women now make up one-third of all active U.S. judges serving in Courts of Appeals, District Courts, Bankruptcy Courts, and as magistrate judges.

Although these statistics demonstrate significant gains for women lawyers, there is still important work to be done to achieve parity.  For lawyer/mothers, this is particularly true and important for their professional growth.

But we must celebrate success where we find it.  So, bravo to the women behind those statistics!

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This Big Law Policy about WFH May be Coming Your Way

There are many divergent policies among law firms about the requirements for attorneys to be present in the office.  The days of the pandemic are behind us, fortunately, and the justifications of individual attorneys for working from home (WFH) are no longer as relevant as they were during the period of public health concerns.   However, the justifications for in-office presence, which have been made by law firms, are likewise diminished to some degree by the high profits that were reported by law firms during the pandemic and periods of almost 100% WFH.

So, it is complicated.  What is not complicated is the frustration level of law firms, and the measures they are adopting to get law firm practice back in the office.

Here is a recent example of that frustration on the part of a Top 50 Biglaw firm.  It is interesting reading and may be a harbinger of things to come.  If so, you need to be aware of the policies and the pitfalls.

Hopefully, the pendulum will swing in such a way that reaches a reasonable compromise that will benefit both law firms and practicing lawyers.

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