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“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass. It’s about learning how to dance in the rain.”

Vivian Greene

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“In matters of principle, stand like a rock; in matters of taste, swim with the current.”

Thomas Jefferson

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“No pessimist ever discovered the secrets of the stars, or sailed to an uncharted land, or opened a new heaven to the horizon of the spirit.”

Helen Keller

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It’s Bar Exam Time Again: Remember Your Friends

It is that time of year again. Time for the bar exam.  Memories of it send chills up my spine —  even though I faced bar exams in a prior century!  Two exams, two jurisdictions, two passes.  That’s it for me.  However, I still have the occasional bar exam nightmare.

Law school graduates all over the country will sit for bar exams on Tuesday and Wednesday, July 25 and 26.   Maybe you are one of them, but I doubt it because reading this blog would not be a good use of your precious time right now.  There is barely enough time to eat and sleep, and you are lucky if you have a few hours a week to lose yourself in a movie or some mindless task that allows you to breathe easier for just a short time.  When did doing laundry become so soothing?

The bar exam is the ultimate right of passage for lawyers, and it is one of the ways that lawyers quality control the profession.  It is a necessary evil.  Much has been written about whether it is equitable, how it could be redesigned to be more like medical school proficiency exams, and whether law school education should include more practice ready emphasis to make the bar exam unnecessary all together.

But, my money is on the bar exam being around for a very long time.  All you can do is prepare for it with the realization that it will have a huge impact on your future.  It is a marathon and not a sprint.  Pace yourself and do not hit the wall too early.

Most of you who are reading this blog either have the bar exam behind you or ahead of you — but not next week.  However, chances are that you know someone who will face this bar exam.  So, now is the time to remember your friends.  E-mail or text them with a few well-chosen encouraging words.  Short and sweet and supportive.  Let them know that you have great confidence that, when October rolls around and the test results are reported, their names will be on the pass list. 

Just do it.  So little can mean so much.

I remember what it was like for my husband.   I remember what it was like for me.  I remember what it was like for my kids — and for me as their Mom, who worried day and night until the October good news arrived.  Not because I did not have faith in them, but because it is winner takes all.  Anyone can have a bad day of testing, and I am no fan of zero sum games.  But, it is what it is.  All you can do is manage it well.

Be there for your friends.  When your time comes, you will want them to be there for you.


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“The moment you accept responsibility for EVERYTHING in your life is the moment you gain the power to change ANYTHING in your life.”

Hal Elrod

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“The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up.”

Mark Twain

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Women Lawyers Should Avoid the Heat

Yes, it is very hot this summer in most parts of America, but this is not the kind of heat I mean.

The heat I am talking about occurs when boys and girls start fooling around on the job.  There is no place for this in the law profession, and I hope you know it.  I made it clear to you in my first book, Best Friends at the Bar:  What Women Need to Know about a Career in the Law (Aspen Publishers 2009).  Presenting yourself as a professional to avoid mixed or wrong sexual/relationship messages is serious business and needs to be taken seriously.

Here is some of what I wrote then:  “I am always amazed at the stories that my [book] contributors tell  —- tales of nipples peeking through sweaters and blouses and exposed cleavage.  They recount the necessity to counsel young women attorneys to raise the necklines and lower the hemlines. … Let me share what the law school career counselors have to say on the subject.  Their advice is no breasts exposed, no panty lines showing, no visible underwear, and no thigh-length skirts. … Too much perfume can also be a problem.”

I stand by those words, and, from what I see in the audiences of young women lawyers in programs I present across the country, you do take it seriously.  Today, there is  heightened awareness of gender issues in the workplace, and young women lawyers are presenting themselves as true professionals.  Bravo!  Take a bow! 

Even with that success, however, now there is another twist on male/female workplace issues that you need to consider.  As pointed out by Vivia Chen of The Careerist in an article for The American Lawyer, a recent poll demonstrates that many Americans do not approve of men and women being alone with each other in the workplace — and that is particularly true when it comes to eating and drinking together.  JUST ALONE — not fooling around.  Nearly two-thirds of those polled think that people should be extra cautious around members of the opposite sex in the work setting.

AND, here is what Chen calls the “real shocker.”  Women are even more disapproving of mixing business with pleasure than are their male colleagues.  Check out the article for the statistics as they relate to particular kinds of interaction between the sexes and the socio-economic influence on polling.

One conclusion presented in the article is that many women believe or know that something is to be feared from these encounters.  Something like bad male behavior, temptation on both sides, or the threat of rumors that can tank careers.  Another conclusion is that the law profession is more evolved than the broader poll group and that women lawyers should not think of giving up prime job assignments because the work entailed being alone with a male colleague.  Anything else, according to Chen, would be  a “lousy career strategy.” I agree with those conclusions, but I also know that there is nothing to be gained from turning a blind eye to the possibility of foul play.

Let me be clear.  I want you to take educated risks, not to be held back by outdated attitudes, and to be wildly successful in your practices.  But, I also want you to be aware that dangers lurk.  Do not get too comfortable in your quest for equality and a corner office that you ignore warning signs.  Inner office relationships typically end badly, and the junior lawyer, almost always a woman, is the one who gets the blame.  She, rather than the male partner, is so much easier for others to blame and keep their jobs.

If you feel the heat, get out of the kitchen.  Change the setting, have a difficult conversation, or bring someone else into the mix.  Even unfounded rumors can ruin careers.

You are smart, capable, ambitious and savvy.  You have been trained to know that innuendo can be just as persuasive as fact.  You understand leading questions, and you also should understand leading behaviors and that they can lead you where you do not want to go.

Put all your skills to work to protect yourself — and then grab that brass ring!











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“You can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can do is change how you react to it.”

Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi

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