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On this day of observance and thanks for the life and work of Martin Luther King, we all should pray for the day when America finally becomes color blind.  Do your part to make this happen.

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A Good Message for the New Year


“I succeeded in a man’s world.  I am not afraid to be a woman.”  How about that for the start to a new year where the sky is the limit for us as women?

That is the message that appeared in a photo ad that I did recently for my all-time favorite jeweler.  I. Gorman Jewelers of Washington, DC and the Gorman family have been a part of my life for a long time.  They deal only with cutting edge jewelry designers and artisans from around the world, and their inventory is breathtaking.  I have spent many hours gazing at those jewel-filled cases and wishing I could have it all — or at least one from each case!

But, I was not prepared for the call I got last summer asking me to participate as a model in their new ad campaign.  In a genius manner, they had decided to use several of their own clients, not professional models, to showcase their jewelry.  But, me?  That seemed impossible.  I never had done anything like this before, and my first thought was that it was not for me.

The Gormans can be very convincing, however, and I also saw the benefit of spreading the Best Friends at the Bar message to a larger audience, an audience beyond women lawyers, an audience of all professional women.  My name would not be on the ad, and that was very important to me.  It is the message that is important, and the ad would be as much about the future for women as about drop-dead gorgeous jewelry.

So, I agreed to sit for the photo session, and I had the greatest Cinderella and Queen for a Day experience of my life.  Quite simply, it was a ball!

The ad ran in the November issue of the Washingtonian magazine and on the sides of metro buses in DC throughout the Fall!  I even saw myself on one of those buses, and I nearly stopped traffic in the middle of DC.  My husband chased one of those buses for two blocks to get a photo.  It was fun.

Above is a picture of me at the Washingtonian 50-Year Anniversary Gala in October beside a poster of the ads featuring me and three fantastic and beautiful women.  I am the one in the lower right-hand corner.  The message reads, “I succeeded in a man’s world.  I am not afraid to be a woman.  I wear I. Gorman.”

This is the message of Best Friends at the Bar.  The jewelry is a plus but not  necessary to be a Best Friend at the Bar.  Be confident.  Know your value.  Be proud of being a woman and everything that comes with it.  Have a Personal Definition of Success.

Remember it and know that I will never let you forget it!

Thanks to I. Gorman for an unbelievable and unforgettable experience — and to the photographer Gary Landsman, who definitely knew how to make me look better than my best.  Bravo!



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Thought For The Day

“Be happy in the moment, that’s enough. Each moment is all we need, not more.”

Mother Teresa

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“Hope smiles from the threshold of the year to come, whispering ‘it will be happier’…”

Alfred Lord Tennyson

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“I don’t know where I’m going from here but I promise it won’t be boring.”

David Bowie at Madison Square Gardens on his 50th birthday.  May he rest in peace.


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Happy New Year!

Happy New Year to all of you!  I hope that you have enjoyed a wonderful holiday season and are ready to take 2016 by storm.  If you put your energy into it, the new year will be very positive for you, both personally and professionally.

The funny thing about all of the New Year resolutions and calls to arms — like the one I just made — is that the new year comes on the heels of the festivities of the November and December holidays.  Lots of fun and activity and plenty of distractions during the holidays, but it does not last.

Along comes January and the beginning of the doldrums of winter here in the Northern Hemisphere.  The weather is dismal in many parts, and the energy and motivation for actually carrying out the resolutions can be hard to find.   After cleaning out the closets and making a good show of “turning over a new leaf,” little actually gets done.

Don’t fall into that trap.  The first quarter of the new year is an ideal time to plan.  Find your warmest sweater and fluffiest slippers and get some hot cocoa brewing.  Pull out that quilt your grandma made for you in the eighth grade and cuddle up.  Planning is where it all begins.  Make lists and start to execute on them.  Don’t be overly ambitious or you will psyche yourself out.  Manageable tasks is the goal.

You CAN do this, and by the time that Spring rolls around, you will be well on your way to making a powerful showing in 2016.  Today is the first day of your planning season.  Make it count!

Your list might include:

  • Having that important conversation with your supervisor at the office about your professional future;
  • Joining the Young Lawyers Section of the local bar association to increase your contacts and take advantage of great programs;
  • Stretching yourself and taking the risk of that first deposition, first Federal Court argument or first trial experience; and
  • Executing on your business development plan (hopefully you have one).

What’s ahead for you in 2016?

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